7 months ago my marriage of 16 years ended which, for those of you out there who have experienced this, is pretty devastating to say the least. When something you have known for 16 years ends and everything changes, how do you move forward? What happens to your self esteem, self confidence and self worth? How quickly life changes after a big decision like that…..
I’ve been thinking about sharing with my readers for a while now the techniques I use to keep moving forward and focusing on what I want. This is what helped me….
1. Confidence is an emotional feeling and we are in control of our feelings. All too often we let others tell us how to feel, how to act and what to say and do. You can control your state from moment to moment. If you haven’t read my blog on ‘Circle of Excellence’ then log onto my website and see my previous blog on how to control your state. Then take action and follow the steps outlined in the blog. You will be feeling more confident in no time!
2. There are two sides to the life equation – cause side and the effect side. People on the effect side blame everything and everyone else for not having their life as they would like it. Those on the cause side ask themselves, how have I contributed to this and what can I do to change my reaction to it even if I can’t change the outcome? Being on the cause side means that you are in control and can change any feeling or behaviour you want. I absolutely know what role I played in the demise of my marriage and I now have some significant learning stored away that enables me to feel a sense of power again in my own life. Check out my blog on ‘Cause and Effect’ then put it into practice. Even if you just ‘pretend’ you are at cause as if it is only a game – it will still work!
3. Clean out your negative emotions! I assume you all clean your house or your car from time to time so what about your own mind? The thoughts you hold in your mind affect your body. Just think about something you are angry about and notice the feelings you get inside your body! This isn’t healthy and takes you away from what it is you really want. Check out my blog on ‘The Secret to Feeling Fabulous Everyday’ then give me a call. I work with international clients over Skype.
Of course there are many other techniques that I use to keep me feeling that I am worth it and I do deserve to be happy and whole. I’m so excited about my future because now I can help other people, both men and women, to regain their spirit and their power after divorce.
So is there light at the end of the tunnel after divorce?
There is not only a light – there is a shining light, lighting up the future you deserve.
If your relationship needs some attention, call 1300 388875 or go to www.lifechangingsolutions.com.au
Bye for now….
Deborah
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