There are three main areas that I focus on to help couples reignite their sex lives.  The first is the individual’s self confidence and belief systems about sex.  I work with each person to teach them how to let go of negative emotions that are standing in their way and show them how to install empowering beliefs about their sex drive and abilities.

Next I focus on each person’s sex strategy.  I bet you didn’t know that everyone has a sex strategy.  A strategy in NLP terms is an order and sequence of internal representations that leads to a particular outcome.  Basically it is what we do in our mind that drives us to get to a specific outcome.

When we first meet that special someone, we do everything we can to fire off their sex strategy and when we get it right – things are rocking!  Over time and as we become more comfortable together, we begin firing off our own sex strategy instead of our partners which results in a mis-match of sexual finesse. 

So what can you do about it?  Well I work with each person to discover what their sex strategy  is, (the steps they do in their mind), then teach it to the other person.  We can alter strategies and install more effective ones if needed and both parties are in agreement.

The third is mis-communication.  Now that is not new to you I’m sure.  How many of you say, ‘my partner doesn’t really ‘hear’ what I’m saying’ or ‘I don’t feel that my partner gets me’.  We all communicate differently.  Some people are more visual, some are more auditory or kinaesthetic (feelings) and some prefer logic and facts and figures.  Once we realise how each person communicates inside their own head, we can use their language when getting our point across, both in and out of the bedroom.

Once you have used the techniques that we teach; your sexual relationship will never be the same again. 

So the question is, are you ready to bring sensational sex back into your relationship?

For more information on seminars, courses and coaching, call 1300 388875, or visit www.lifechangingsolutions.com.au

Bye for now….

Deborah

I’ve been thinking about sharing with my readers for a while now the techniques I use to keep moving forward and focusing on what I want. This is what helped me….

1. Confidence is an emotional feeling and we are in control of our feelings. All too often we let others tell us how to feel, how to act and what to say and do. You can control your state from moment to moment. If you haven’t read my blog on ‘Circle of Excellence’ then log onto my website and see my previous blog on how to control your state. Then take action and follow the steps outlined in the blog.  You will be feeling more confident in no time!

2. There are two sides to the life equation – cause side and the effect side. People on the effect side blame everything and everyone else for not having their life as they would like it. Those on the cause side ask themselves, how have I contributed to this and what can I do to change my reaction to it even if I can’t change the outcome? Being on the cause side means that you are in control and can change any feeling or behaviour you want. I absolutely know what role I played in the demise of my marriage and I now have some significant learning stored away that enables me to feel a sense of power again in my own life. Check out my blog on ‘Cause and Effect’ then put it into practice. Even if you just ‘pretend’ you are at cause as if it is only a game – it will still work!

3. Clean out your negative emotions! I assume you all clean your house or your car from time to time so what about your own mind? The thoughts you hold in your mind affect your body. Just think about something you are angry about and notice the feelings you get inside your body!  This isn’t healthy and takes you away from what it is you really want. Check out my blog on ‘The Secret to Feeling Fabulous Everyday’ then give me a call. I work with international clients over Skype.

Of course there are many other techniques that I use to keep me feeling that I am worth it and I do deserve to be happy and whole. I’m so excited about my future because now I can help other people, both men and women, to regain their spirit and their power after divorce.

So is there light at the end of the tunnel after divorce?

There is not only a light – there is a shining light, lighting up the future you deserve.

If your relationship needs some attention, call 1300 388875 or go to www.lifechangingsolutions.com.au

Bye for now….

Deborah

What if the answer however is ‘No, this relationship isn’t worth saving!” ?

You know being honest with yourself about what you want out of a relationship is the first step towards having the relationship you really want and need.  All too often I hear about people who stay in unresourceful or unhappy relationships because the perceived pain of leaving is too much to contemplate.   The question I’d like to ask is this….  When did it become okay for us to remain in a relationship where our needs are not being met?  How often do you hear of older couples wishing they had the guts to leave the relationship and spend their remaining years in a passionate and exciting relationship?

Regardless of whether you stay and make it work or leave and make it work, NLP techniques can help you make the transition easier emotionally.

The first thing you need to do is be clear about what it is you want in a relationship.  You probably already know what you don’t want – so stop focusing on that and focus on what you do want.  Once you have that list of wants and needs – look at your current relationship and decide together if the relationship is worth saving and if each partner can meet the other’s needs. If the answer is no, then you can support each other in the decision and move towards what you do want in an amicable way.

For more information on NLP Couples Therapy, contact Deborah on 1300 388875 or go to www.lifechangingsolutions.com.au

Bye for now…

Deborah