Imagine what it would be like if you could see past events from a different perspective, learn something new and let go of any emotions that you don’t like or don’t help you. Wouldn’t it be of value to learn how to do this easily and as often as you needed to?
I regularly coach and teach people how to reduce or let go of an unwanted negative emotion experienced when they think of a past minor event or memory.
When pictures of past events or experiences are strongly linked with negative emotions such as frustration, annoyance and disappointment, we often protect ourselves from re-experiencing them, which prevents us learning from those experiences.
There is a really easy technique that you can use to separate the images of the experience from the feelings about the experience, so that you can easily learn from the event and move towards what you want. It is called the V/K Technique and is so simple to do.
First I’d like you to think of a minor event that bothers you. Maybe something that made you a little annoyed, frustrated or uneasy.
See the event through your own eyes and notice the emotion. If you can’t feel the emotion it probably doesn’t bother you anymore, so pick another event.
Now ‘imagine’ floating up above your body and seeing the event as if you were looking down on yourself, way down there. Make sure you can see yourself in the picture. If you are imagining yourself ‘looking down’ on the scene below, you won’t be able to feel the emotion. That’s a great start.
Now run the scene back on forth until you learn something new or something not previously remembered from this perspective. What are you seeing now that you didn’t see before?
Notice that the emotion has gone or at least lessened.
How can you incorporate this in your everyday life? Use it over the next week on minor events that bother you. It’s a great technique – I love it.
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Bye for now
Deb